Love with out regret!

Every moment that passes, I live in pure happiness. No! It is not an easy life, I am often hurt. But by the end of the day I can sit and look around and know, today was filled with love. I am surrounded by family, right now the three that bring me the most joy is my husband and my sweet little children. I find my self realizing what peace and simpleness I obtain by serving and being served by these wonders around me.

I can truly say I have no regrets in my love. For in this blessing I LIVE AND LOVE FULLY!

Relation.... to whom

Getting married and coming into a family is more than just getting a wonderful man to love, it is getting so much more. You are blessed with extended family, when the union happens you will learn more from this extension, than you will anywhere else in this whole wide world.

You start by learning more about how your husband is effected by his family and yours, and visa versa (That of course is to be expected) than you learn and appreciate how you are effected by your own family and his. Than the biggest lesson you will ever learn is who you are.

Someone once said to me, " The family you were sent to was meant to be your family, because God knew who would teach you the most."  The more I reflect on this statement the more I know it to be true. I has been my family on both sides that has given me the hardest lessons to learn.  And I could never express how grateful I am that they did.

A lot of the times I have wished I could have learned those lessons on my own and felt that i was suppose to learn them with out the aid of family, yet when it comes down to it, it was these wonderful beings that I am bond to for all time and eternity that gave me the right emotions and tools to either start the lesson or to finish and learn the lesson.

I wonder if this is why Lucifer is always trying to brake families apart? With out the people God placed in your life to teach you what you are suppose to learn than how can you become who you are suppose to be. That is why marriage is so important too, ( at least in my life) for with out the extension of the union I received I would not have what I do or have learned what I needed to learn.

I am grateful for siblings ( non in law and in laws) to get mad at, to help me get over my issues, to laugh with, to enjoy watching their journey no matter how hard it is for me. I am so blessed to be surrounded by love and  family that loves me even if I am crazy at times... Or seem to be transforming into what will either be a green ball of slime or a super hero....lol

THANK YOU MY WONDERFUL FAMILY NON-EXTENDED AND EXTENDED!!!! FOR YOU HAVE TRULY BLESSED MY LIFE!!!!

Becomming whole

Sitting back and looking over the three wonderful full years Brandon and I have shared, I stand smiling and honored to be married to such a man.  I do not know if every married couple feels this way, but I feel as if our three simple years we have experienced and lived through an entire life time. Like we are already an 80 year old couple ready to share what we have learned. We have shared great times, frustrating times and even more times of learning. Lately my husband and I have had the growing experience of  starting up our own business. Many hours and frustrated tears have been put in to our business, and for a awhile (at different parts of building this business) I felt there was no way to continue while and still succeed. Brandon in the mean time had no doubt and had continued faith in our skills and how we will come out on top. After a few short months and me finally coming up to speed with the amazing brain the man has, our success took place.

The most valuable lesson I learned from all of this is that I am strong on my own, but I am unstoppable with God and Brandon completing my holes and making me whole.

When you get married, you come into the marriage being a individual. You are strong and most of the time you think you have a good idea on you are. Than this whole another person comes into your life, they too think they have a good idea who they are. The truth is you both will not be completely who you are truly meant to be, until you and your spouse rely on each other, depend on each other, and become a whole person. When you get married you are meant to become one, meant to function as one whole person. In a lot of the cases, where you slack your spouse should pick up, and visa versa. One perfectly working machine. Than and only than will you truly know who you are.

But what do I know, I have only been married three years...

What it takes...

I am still learning what it really takes only married couples who have been married for over 30 years truly know what it takes, but here is what I have learned. I have learned that service to your spouse is huge. Not only does it allow you to show your lover how much you care, but in return you start to feel deeper love for them. My advice is even if you really rather not... serve the person you love, or want to love or anyone else that applies.
I will give you an good example my sweet husband proved this yesterday after we got done boating. I took the kids to the car and waited for everyone else to get the boat out of the water. It wasn't a very big deal to me, but as soon as my husband learned he came over took the kids from me and said he was sorry he didn't know I had them all by myself and took them sweetly from my arms and helped me take them to car. This is what service is all about.. I so love my man!

The man named Brandon

I married a great man named Brandon. Brandon and I met in a world of pizza making, late night dancing, and endless laughing. Our relationship started out, well lets just say, poor Brandon had to  work really hard for me.
The moment I felt Brandon's presence, instantly I became a better person. I first saw him hugging what would become my future sister in law and best friend, and my thinking was who ever she has, there is no one better than him. ( At the time I saw them hugging I didn't know they were brother and sister, I am very glad they are, cause I might have stolen this poor girls boyfriend away from her.) The next week I was surprised and intrigued to find out the amazing boyfriend of Shaina's ( my sister in law) was her brother and that he is now working at the Pizza Parlor where Shaina and I was working at. Within 20 min of us working together my thoughts went as followed... "He's the one, he is going to be my first kiss, my first boyfriend, and than we might... I can't think about that yet, I don't even know him."
(Let me back up for a moment to tell you yes I was very innocent.)


From these thoughts I became determined to make this man mine. So my next thought was to go up to him and learn as much as possible about him and take the first steps to proceed with my plan. ( I must also interject here that I have never had the confidence that I did than and now, until I was around Brandon.) With this new found confidence I could flirt, say what I want and approach him with the idea of pursuit. When I came upon him to talk and get to know him, I got more than I wanted, the full truth of him. I stood there confused, cause I was so sure he was going to be my perfect man, yet from his past I saw a different light. How foolish and conceded I was! I will say though that because of my actions our tale makes up a great story. With in hours of my understanding at the time of the fact I guess I wasn't going to date him, he asked me out. To my surprise and evil ways I told him NO straight to his face. ( Later Shaina tells me this is the best thing I could have ever done, for Brandon was never said no to, and I was the first which brought him to pursue me more.)

This my friends is the begining of our story and you will be ran through the details of everything else that follows in the remainder blogs to come.

ENJOY!